Taking the Plunge. Advice?

[redneckgames]

Getting married saturday.

We have been dating for just over 5 years. We get along great, she likes to hunt, loves muscle cars and hates imports, I really think we are perfect for each other. We have the occasional little fight, but who doesnt? Have been roommates for the last year (alot of people may think thats wrong, which it might be to an extent, but hear me out. We both needed roommates, so we got a 2 bedroom apartment together, and believe it or not we stay in seperate beds. Mainly because Im a big guy and I like to roll around in my full size bed. We will definately be getting a king size sometime.) So living together we have already worked through alot of the little things that can bug you. But surprisingly we live together very well. She puts up with me and my junk cars that I part out. She's great. and to top it all off, she looks too good to be with me.

so any advice? all is welcome and I cant hear it too much

[OH_YO]

Here my advice for what its worth. The first time I got married I knew the day before our wedding that she wasn't the one for me. Being the hard head I am I did it any way. I reaped what I sowed, I wouldn't listen to what the Lord was trying to tell me. Now I have a great little 13 year old daughter and thats about the only thing good I can say I got.....other than my lawn mower and weed eater. I pay 420.00 a month child support and get chewed out alot by my X. I let the Lord put me together this time. We have been married 4 GREAT years. We get along great and rarely fuss. I say pray about it and see what he says, he don't make no mistakes.

[Melonhead]

I second, pray about it. There is nothing wrong about getting maried. You just need to be sure that is what GOD want for you. You need to seek your heart and not your flesh to get the answer. Never cut yourself down thinking you are not worthy for her. I have been married for 13 years and I almost left her because of comunication problems. See would try to hide thing and I would find out later. Nothing more than financal stuff, not the others. When I left for 2 months it opened her eyes to the truth. I would not stand for being lied to. We have agreed to talk things out no matter how large or small. It is only getting better with time. Communication and honor is the keys to a relationship. Good luck with yours and GOD be with you.

[Ryoung68]

Ditto! prayer is a great start. Also, never go to sleep mad at each other. I just past 22 yrs and it keeps getting sweeter and sweeter.

[Knanthrup]

You'll know if it's right or not deep down. You don't need any of us to tell you. To me it sounds like you've got a great relationship there. Follow your instinct, you'll truly know what's right. Congratulations on your engagement and soon to be marriage. Best regards,

[rudedogg]

now is the perfect time to RUN,DON'T LOOK BACK!

[85350DROPTOP]

WOW!!! I am so glad to see so much Christian advice, Praise God!

I think you are sure you want to get married, but if you aren't 110%, DON'T DO IT!! Marriage is forever, and that's my advice. Both of you need to be of like mind and spirit, both committed to each other, and to the Lord, and never say, or even think about divorce. Just pretend it doesn't exist, and you have to work things out.

I have not been married as
long as some, but here is another piece of advice: BE TRANSPARENT. In you finances, in you work life, in everything. Don't have seperate bank accounts. Don't lie to her if she asks you "is that girl pretty?" Be one with her, love her, treat her better than you treat yourself, and lastly, here is some advice paraphased from the Bible:

The man is to be the head of the household, and the wife is to be submissive to him, and A HUSBAND IS TO LOVE HIS WIFE AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH (that means more than anything else, including your s-10.)

I will get out from behind the pulpit now....Amen.

[rayL]

whats hers is hers and whats yours is hers.

[redneckgames]

thanks guys for all of your input. I really appreciate it. I have prayed about it and thought about it numerous times and Im certain she is the one for me. I will have to post up some pics later on. Its going to be a fun wedding instead of a lovey dovey one. I actually talked her into letting me wear a mossy oak vest. So our colors are pink and camo. I mean how many other girls will let that get by?

again thanks guys

and droptop, are you sure I have to more than the S10?, lol seriously though thanks

[stroker1]

Hey, is that the same girl that's in your picture album standing beside some ugly dude?

LOL, just kidding! Good luck. Always be patient, do not yell and raise your voice (I have always had a problem with this), and trust her. If some day you can't trust her anymore, you will know it. If that never happens, always believe in yourself and your wife. And pray together.

[redneckgames]

yeah stroker, thats her

well, just over one day. wedding went great. I'll have to post up some pics later. Got to go!

[Melonhead]

Great!!!!!!!

[85350DROPTOP]

Quit wasting your time on the net, and enjoy that Honeymoon!! Congratulations.

[Ryoung68]

I mean that! This is one of the last places I'd be if I just got hitched, LOL!

[redneckgames]

lol, got to do something while she puts on make-up

[Ryoung68]

Oh! OK, I know what you mean. Hair, makeup, what to wear, get used to it bro! Really, have a good time, treat her like she deserves to be treated, and all will be good! ;)