riotpolice75
09-13-2003, 10:16 PM
i got a big problem here. im real concerned about my buddy kyle. he turned 21 in may and he drinks ALOT. he drinks to the point of sloppy drunk almost every night. now tonight was no exception. we were all out and he got totally railed. more so than usual. its to the point now where were all fed the hell up with it as is his girlfriend. alot of the problem is he has an addictive personality.
he smoked one cigarette junior year of high school and had a pack the next day, he still smokes. one of our other friends smokes alot of weed. he was always pushin kyle to smoke with him. one day, about a year ago, he did and now he smokes constantly, its the same way with the drinkin. the weed im not overly concerned about. ive seen him put the weed down for months at a time and its not nearly as dangerous nor is it nearly as addictive as alcohol. i can personally attest to that being as that i used to smoke it constantly. although i totally quit smokin it a long time ago, it lost its appeal to me.
myself along with my friends and kyles girlfriend are all quite concerned with his drinking though. im a bar manager so im paid to know if your drunk or not. and after managing and bartending for a long enough time you get an eye for alcoholics. i can spot em in a crowd, drunk or not. and im starting to see this in my buddy, the more i see the worse it seems to get.
now after the drunken show we were all treated to earlier tonight and after his girlfriend walked out and drove home without him we all decided that we really need to sit his ass down and talk to him about it. but whats really beatin me up is how in the hell are we gonna do this? anyone ever been in a situation like this? and how did you handle it? im at a total loss as to how to approach him. i dont wanna just come right out and start bitchin. if anything thats more likely to drive him away than it is to make him want to listen.
if anyone has ever dealt with anything like this please tell me how you went about it. because i cant just sit back and wait for him to stop, it aint gonna happen like that. ive seen too many people i know slip into it and i have enough family who are either alcoholics or reformed alcoholics. we (my friends and i) figured if we talk to him now we could probably do something about it. or at least try like hell. personally ill be goddamned if im gonna let him slip into it. any help would be immensely appreciated. thank you ahead of time.
smith
he smoked one cigarette junior year of high school and had a pack the next day, he still smokes. one of our other friends smokes alot of weed. he was always pushin kyle to smoke with him. one day, about a year ago, he did and now he smokes constantly, its the same way with the drinkin. the weed im not overly concerned about. ive seen him put the weed down for months at a time and its not nearly as dangerous nor is it nearly as addictive as alcohol. i can personally attest to that being as that i used to smoke it constantly. although i totally quit smokin it a long time ago, it lost its appeal to me.
myself along with my friends and kyles girlfriend are all quite concerned with his drinking though. im a bar manager so im paid to know if your drunk or not. and after managing and bartending for a long enough time you get an eye for alcoholics. i can spot em in a crowd, drunk or not. and im starting to see this in my buddy, the more i see the worse it seems to get.
now after the drunken show we were all treated to earlier tonight and after his girlfriend walked out and drove home without him we all decided that we really need to sit his ass down and talk to him about it. but whats really beatin me up is how in the hell are we gonna do this? anyone ever been in a situation like this? and how did you handle it? im at a total loss as to how to approach him. i dont wanna just come right out and start bitchin. if anything thats more likely to drive him away than it is to make him want to listen.
if anyone has ever dealt with anything like this please tell me how you went about it. because i cant just sit back and wait for him to stop, it aint gonna happen like that. ive seen too many people i know slip into it and i have enough family who are either alcoholics or reformed alcoholics. we (my friends and i) figured if we talk to him now we could probably do something about it. or at least try like hell. personally ill be goddamned if im gonna let him slip into it. any help would be immensely appreciated. thank you ahead of time.
smith